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Wednesday, December 16, 2009

My Life Philosphy

I have blogged before about finding the good in all that happens, even the bad stuff. It can be hard, but I believe all that life gives us is to help us learn. One lesson I have found it hard to learn is to understand I can not control all the bad things that happen to my family. But I can choose to make some good out of some bad.

As you would know if you have been following my blog, my brother in law committed suicide and it has been hard for me to deal with. I was sad, really sad for what seemed the longest time, I could not move on ... so I applied my life philosophy and thought, how can I do something that may turn this loss into something good. So I wrote a letter to my workmates, telling them what had happened, asking them to reach out to get help if they felt overwhelmed or depressed or to reach out to a friend or family member who they could see struggling - for maybe by acknowledging someone you could help them realise that people did care. That this was especially important at Christmas which is statistically a time that the rate of suicide increases.

I didn't want to send it out under my name as I was still fragile and so I wrote to my boss and asked him to do it on my behalf, leaving me in the anonymity I desired - it took him a few days to do so, but last Friday he sent the email out. Since then I have been feeling a lot better, because I felt I honored my b-i-l's death by talking about his struggle and reaching out to others.

Then today at work I was approached by someone, who did not know I was the originator of the email, who asked me to give them the number of the counselling service our work offers. The universe heard and answered my plea - someone, somewhere reached out for help and hopefully will be healed by doing so.

I may never understand my b-i-l's decision, but my heart feels better that through his loss maybe, just maybe someone else will be helped back onto the path of happiness.

So my plea to you is, if you are suffering in any way, please reach out, there are hands and hearts ready to help, you just need to find the strength to ask.

Please be safe and well as this Christmas season approaches, find the joy in each day - there is some there each and every day, some days you may have to search a little harder, but I do believe with all my heart that your search for joy will be rewarded.

Hugs from Perth xxx


  1. You're a beautiful soul, Karen and that was a beautiful thing you did.

    I hope that that man finds some relief.

    You and your family have been in my thoughts, I hope you're all doing as well as you can be after such a tragic loss.

  2. Thanks Melissa for your support and words of encouragement. Life is gradually getting back to normal for everyone, although Christmas will be hard for my sister in law and nieces, but we are here to support them all the way. xxx



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