Warning, if you are one of my kids, or are young and think that oldies don't do IT anymore, you may not want to read further than the banner and if you do - well I did warn you!
Oh and Mum, I know you will read this, but remember I don't need TMI given I am your daughter - lol.
So my older bloggy friends, I have a question for you, especially those of you with arthritis or other illnesses. How's your sex life? Not that I am a perv, I am just curious.
I miss having a sex life, it is not that I don't want to, in fact I really do. And hubby, well he wants to as well, but he is too scared that he will hurt me, and I am too scared of the pain that follows me for days. The pleasure is fantastic but the aftermath sort of cancels it out.
So it has been months and months and months and months (possibly even a year) since we have even attempted the 'horizontal tango'. I miss the closeness, the snuggling afterwards, the whole nine yards.
I seriously want to initiate the passion again, but then I feel my hip ache, or my back spasm and I remember the last few times when I have cramped up, when I end up crying and trying not to let hubby know - but he always does. Then he blames himself, which is not right, because he hasn't done anything different from the thousands of times before my arthritis got so bad.
So my friends, how do you cope?
Have you like us, just started avoiding the issue?
Do you dose up on pain meds prior and after?
And if you have started avoiding the issue, do you miss it too?
Sorry I'm no help as its only my feet that are bad and you don't need them for sex.
ReplyDelete@greenthumb, thanks for taking the time to comment. I hope your feet don't give you too much grief, while you might not need them for sex, they are a much more important part of everyday life. Hugs from Perth xxx
ReplyDeleteI can empathise and sympathise but that is as far as I will go 'cos I certainly don't want to give out TMI. We had added problems but I won't go into that other than to say you do miss that closeness with the one you love.
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